My last few months in the UK were so busy, which explains the lack of blog posts (oh and this as well).
I have been a very good, chaste boy during most of my stay in London, but I made up for it by doing a lot of naughty stuff before going home. And so I come back with no regrets, no "what ifs" in my mind.
When I left for the UK two years ago, I embarked on a new journey in my life. And now I come back to Manila not to continue my previous journey, but to start a new one. This time it's different. I have now decided to fully live my life as a gay man. I resolve not to hide my light under a bushel. I have some fear in my heart, perhaps fear of the unknown. But I am also very excited. Excited about the people I will meet, the places I will see and the experiences I will have.
I've been here a week, and I've left the house just two times. Both days were spent to meet my new and old gay friends. I had so much fun. I hope there is more to come!
Fair enough if you haven't heard about him before. Blue, a boyband which he is a member of wasn't that popular in the Philippines. But I'm sure you know one of their hits "One Love".
I didn't know him either when I was still in Manila, it's when I went to the UK that I heard of him, he was playing one of the characters in "Chicago" in the West End, and this promotional poster of him caught my eye, I was salivating!!
So, I was thrilled when they announced in April that Blue has reformed.
But I was even thrilled when I read this news article this afternoon:
Here are tidbits of what he said in that interview:
"I'm bisexual. I've been in loving relationships with men as well as women - and I'm not ashamed."
"Am I gay? Am I straight? Am I bi? That's why I was so frightened about talking. Now, in my early 30s, I know who I am and I'm proud of who I am. I don't want to hide anymore."
"I wanted to be able to say to someone, 'This is going on and I don't know what to do,' but I was too SCARED."
"Being bisexual as a man is a taboo subject but I'm 100 per cent happy with who I am. "
"But I'm at a place where I'm finally comfortable with myself after 31 years."
"I'm ready to be honest, not just to myself but to all the fans and everyone who's been there for me."
I hope Duncan's honesty pays off and not jeopardize Blue's comeback. Love you Duncan!!
P.S. I just realized why I'm so attracted to him, it's because he looks like Josh Weston, one of my favorite "Falcon" stars. :)
During the first month of this blog, a friend quizzed me on the real reasons for setting it up. He asked me if I started the blog because of this guy. I flatly denied it, saying that my reasons were clearly laid out in my first post. Back then, I believed what I was saying.
But now, it's been more than a month since my last post. And coincidentally (or not), my last post was about him. I just didn't have the urge to write anything after that episode. So I guess my friend was right. You can now tell me "I told you so!!!"
Alam kong hindi mo pansin Narito lang ako Naghihintay na mahalin Umaasa kahit di man ngayon Mapapansin mo rin Mapapansin mo rin
Alam kong di mo makita Narito lang ako Hinihintay lagi kita Umaasa kahit di man ngayon Hahanapin mo rin Hahanapin din
Chorus: Pagdating ng panahon Baka ikaw rin at ako Baka tibok ng puso ko'y Maging tibok ng puso mo Sana nga'y mangyari 'yon Kahit di pa lang ngayon Sana ay mahalin mo rin Pagdating ng panahon
Alam kong hindi mo alam Narito lang ako Maghihintay kahit kailan Nangangarap kahit di man ngayon Mamahalin mo rin Mamahalin mo rin
Chorus
Bridge: Di pa siguro bukas Di pa rin ngayon Malay mo balang araw Dumating din iyon
Since I was a young kid, I've always known I was different, I was always getting bullied for being effeminate. My friends were all girls and chinese garter and 10-20 were our favorite pastime. Despite the effeminate tendencies, I was living the life of a straight guy, I had my own teenage sweetheart and shared green jokes with the guys. Silently though, I was sharing the crushes of my girl friends, I enjoyed listening to them when they tell stories about these cute guys.
My foray into the gay lifestyle started in college, it happened one day while I was walking the streets of Recto. Gay magazines were extremely popular, and so I started collecting "Cover Boy", I particularly fancied this one as it was the most daring yet tasteful mag of the time. Stage two came when I stumbled into the DVD-laden streets of Quaipo (back then it was still VCDs). For P100 for 3 pieces, you can buy a piece of gay heaven. This is an interest that I have carried over when I started working, only this time I buy my gay porn online from sellers in yahoo groups.
My gay life was a secret to everyone. I was contented with the way it was, it was another side of me that people didn't have to know. I hardly thought of coming out.
It was at work when I started stage three. I discovered "Guys4men". It was an exciting world, not only do I get to see pictures of cute and naked guys, I get to see them in the flesh. But I was engaging in the lifestyle in moderation as even if I wanted to do more, my job didn't give me the time to do so. G4M led me to what I consider stage four, I was invited to join an orgy group, I must admit it was a big ego boost to be asked to join them. I then later found out that I was invited as part of their efforts to have variety in the group, "not everyone is into twinks" was what the organizer said, ouch!
Stage five began when I discovered gay blogs. Manila Gay Guy was the first gay blog I've read. Like a lot of gay guys, it was the sexy photos that initially attracted me to the site. Migs also started publishing his readers' letters which I enjoyed a lot. He also featured other gay bloggers which I all eventually followed: Gibbs, Mcvie, AJ, CC, Misterhubs, Tiggah and Lobster Tony. MGG then started to do podcasts, my favorite episode ever is the "Coming Out" series. The statement that reverberates in my mind came from Gibbs, sharing the reason for his coming out, he said "It's a very frustrating thing that there is this something that is so fundamental to me that I've come to accept that I can't tell ..." . This statement was so compelling that it eventually ended up in my official "coming out" speech. Thank you Troikasters! (now known as the Fabcasters)
Over the last 18 months, I have already came out to 18 people. 6 office friends, 3 college friends and 9 elementary and high school barkada. Each time I come out, I feel lighter, I feel liberated, I feel free.
My current LSS best describes how I feel, "Electricity" from Billy Elliot the Musical (which I watched last week at the West End, cryola ang beauty ko).
I can't really explain it, I haven't got the words It's a feeling that you can't control I suppose it's like forgetting, losing who you are And at the same time something makes you whole
It's like that there's a music, playing in your ear And I'm listening, and I'm listening, and then I disappear
And then I feel a change, like a fire deep inside Something bursting me wide open, impossible to hide And suddenly I'm flying, flying like a bird Like Electricity, electricity Sparks inside of me, and I'm free, I'm free
It's a bit like being angry; it's a bit like being scared Confused and all mixed up and mad as hell It's like when you've been crying And you're empty and you're full I don't know what it is, it's hard to tell
It's like that there's some music, playing in your ear But the music is impossible, impossible to hear
But then I feel it move me Like a burning deep inside Something bursting me wide open Impossible to hide And suddenly I'm flying Flying like a bird Like Electricity, electricity Sparks inside of me And I'm free, I'm free
Electricity sparks inside of me And I'm free, I'm free Oh, I'm free
In December 2008, I went back to Manila for a month long vacation. I have been away for 13 months. I brought home with me a list of things I had to buy, and activities I had to do.
After 27 days in the Philippines, it was time to return to London once again. I looked at my list, everything was ticked off, everything was done. On 3 January, the day of my flight, I wasn't too sad, the 27 days was enough for me, I had no regrets on how I spent my limited time back home.
But there was one thing that made leaving difficult, it was something not on my list, something I didn't plan to do. I met C on that fateful night in a hotel in Ortigas.
I was happy to have met you, but sad that things have to be put on hold for 10 months. I hope you never get tired of reading my YM messages. I hope you keep in touch. I hope fate is on my side.
In less than an hour (Manila time), this very special person in my life will celebrate his birthday. I hope you enjoy this day, I hope you have fun.
As for me, I guess I'll have to make do with seeing you in my dreams tonight.
Chances are you'll find me Somewhere on your road tonight Seems I always end up driving by Ever since I've known you It just seems you're on my way All the rules of logic don't apply
I long to see you in the night Be with you 'til morning light
I remember clearly how you looked The night we met I recall your laughter and your smile I remember how you made me Feel so at ease I remember all your grace, your style
And now you're all I long to see You've come to mean so much to me
Chances are I'll see you Somewhere in my dreams tonight You'll be smiling like the night we met Chances are I'll hold you and I'll offer All I have
You're the only one I can't forget Baby you're the best, I've ever met
And I'll be dreaming of the future And hoping you'll be by my side And in the morning I'll be longing For the night, for the night
Chances are I'll see you Somewhere in my dreams tonight You'll be smiling like the night we met Chances are I'll hold you and I'll offer All I have
You're the only one I can't forget Baby you're the best I've ever met
On the sports section of newspapers, it will be pages and pages of football players and their "wags". Only in this country does a change in manager of the national team makes front page news. And who would forget the fierce riots after emotionally charged games.
I've been here for over a year but I've managed to watch only one full game on TV. But I can now recognize a handful of the popular players. But just when I thought I can already start chatting with the Brits about football, I realized that I only know the hot footie players :)
Most Filipino gay men know David Beckham (but of course).
But let me introduce to you the other players that I know:
So, I was thrilled when they announced in April that Blue has reformed.
Ahh, distractions :)
